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Stories of bullying and coping in a online community

We’ve spent the whole semester talking about bullying: its definitions, causes, and consequences. But what really makes you feel its impact is hearing real stories. Understanding the theory is one thing, but reading about someone who has actually lived through it creates a much deeper emotional connection. It’s in those moments that you truly realise how important it is to take action and work on prevention.

Recently, I read an article based on a blog post that deeply moved me: “I was bullied too”: stories of bullying and coping in an online community by Davis et al. (2015). The blog post that inspired the article was written by Amanda Palmer, an American singer and performer known not only for her music but also for being very open with her fans. In one of her posts, she talked about being bullied and invited others to share their own stories. The response was massive. Hundreds of people opened up, sharing painful memories and how they managed to cope.

What I found especially powerful is that the blog became a safe space for honesty and connection. People described being bullied for things like their body, the way they dressed, their sexuality, their race, or even for being too quiet or too enthusiastic in class. One story that stuck with me was from someone who was constantly called names because of their weight and ended up skipping school just to avoid the pain. Another talked about being outed as queer in high school and losing all their friends overnight.

Reading these stories reminded me of things I’ve seen or heard myself: at school, online, even among younger relatives. It made me reflect on how bullying doesn’t always stop with age. Some people in the blog were adults sharing stories from childhood that still hurt deeply. And that’s something we’ve also discussed in class, how the consequences of bullying can last for years, shaping your self-esteem, your relationships, and even your mental health.

Many people in the blog shared how they coped. Some found comfort in creative outlets like writing or music. Others talked about the one friend, teacher or sibling who made them feel seen. Sadly, some mentioned harmful ways of coping, like self-harm or isolation, which really shows how deep the emotional wounds of bullying can go when there’s no one around to lean on.

What I liked about the article is that it didn’t just collect stories. It also tried to understand what helped and what didn’t. And honestly, it made me realize how important it is not just to prevent bullying, but also to listen to those who go through it. Creating spaces where people feel safe enough to talk, whether it's a blog, a classroom or even just a private conversation, can make a huge difference.

I think one of the biggest takeaways from this article is that empathy and presence really matter. When someone shares what they’ve been through, just listening and taking them seriously can make a huge difference. It also made me think about how often we stay quiet as bystanders, thinking someone else will do something. But silence can make things worse. Reading all these stories reminded me that behind every case of bullying there’s a real person, and sometimes, what helps the most is simply knowing someone is there for you.

Davis, K., Randall, D. P., Ambrose, A., & Orand, M. (2015). "I was bullied too": Stories of bullying and coping in an online community. Information, Communication & Society, 18(4), 357–375. https://doi.org/10.1080/1369118X.2014.952657


Salma Garrijou Bouzyane


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