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Narcissistic victim bully complex

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Narcissistic victim bully complex

I found a video talks about the Narcissistic Victim Bully Complex, where someone acts like both the victim and the bully to manipulate others. These people change the story to get sympathy, making it look like they are always the ones being treated unfairly, when really they are the ones causing harm. It's even worse when only you see them being mean, while everyone else believes they are the victim. They get all the support, and you end up looking like the bad person.

One of the most harmful tricks they use is the classic "I'm just joking" excuse. It puts you in a difficult position: either you laugh at your own embarrassment to stay "fun", or you call them out and suddenly you're "too sensitive" or "no fun". This is how they keep control, they make you doubt your own feelings while they continue to manipulate the situation.

The woman in the video explains why it's so important to recognize these behaviors and set boundaries. It's easy to get caught up in their little games. I met a girl who was exactly like this, and she always acted like I was in the wrong or stupid. I was quite young when I was in touch with this 'friend', but I soon realized that I wasn't the problem. It's important to trust your instincts and look after your own health.

References:

DoctorRamani. (2022). The narcissist’s victim-bully complex [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRbmsQ3WW_4

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